#Amazingspots #foodie Lets gist hangout in Lekki Lagos

I love finding new spots to hang out with friends  and fortunately a friend find this cool spot in Lekki phase one, on Lexington mall along Admiralty way. Its a cozy restaurant called "MILANO restaurant". Normally, i don't like eateries or restaurants because they can be noisy and over crowded, aesthetics can be depressing or overwhelming. 

Wow! I got to this place and I love the decor, the natural lighting with the lovely simple chandeliers. And my on my! the service superior, i mean they treat you like a queen (which i love) and the food is fantastic.

Sweet pizza and  delicious club sandwich.

Above is the wonderful friendly Chef Kahlil , who was so humble and sweet.
so peeps, wherever you are in Lagos and you want to chill in a calm  and beautiful enivromnet, You want somewhere for a quite romantic date,' Milano restraurant' is just the perfect spoet and the best thing is, its sooooo affordable.

WALKAWELL: #lieswehear "Matured singles in African society" ...

WALKAWELL: #lieswehear "Matured singles in African society" ...: "Matured singles in African society" #maturedwomen This is old news that every part of the world have their own view and sayin...

#lieswehear "Matured singles in African society" #snubNstigma" #myths

"Matured singles in African society"

#maturedwomen

This is old news that every part of the world have their own view and sayings for ladies who are still single in the late twenties, thirties, forties and fifties. These are words of supposed wisdom on  how they look at  person who seems physically normal and by this i mean; having two legs, no deformity, working, good looking and very single. 
The words for men would be, "My guy! are you gay?" You don catch AIDS?" especially they don't see women leaving your room early in the morning or you dress on point and no chic by your side.  but they never say that to a man in public or at events. these are private gists.

For ladies its a different scenario, it start with the " I dey pity you statement" (that's our local English phrase, it means try and make her feel sorry for herself)
"Oh! you are getting fat", "whats up sis?" , "Don't worry God will do it for  you?" "all is well!" ,"You are not the only one", "No kill your self!" "But you well soo?" 
then you get into your forties: the tone becomes harsh or forcefully, please pardon the phrases , most are in pidgin english.
" Oh girl you don old ooo, na small boys you go soon follow?"
" you are too selective, thats the problem. " " just grab on the anyone way come your way" " My dear, your eggs don dey spoil ooo, sharply go see that man of God". " What is special about you, wetin you d feel like?"  

The  truth is life is in stages and being single is not a disease. nobody notices the high rate of divorces in Africa due to the rush to marry, in order to slay your friends. Just to say Sorry "I pepper them well" with all the glam that goes with wedding. 

 They get in a relationship by fears or by force and discover they don't know anything about that guy and feel frustrated because they had no clue that he is not meant to make them happy. I have colleagues in the field of counseling and we all agree that its common for a Nigerian Lady in her early thirties who had dreams, would want to kill those dreams and adventurous side of herself because she wants to become someone she is not in order to get married.  An classic example  would be a drag queen on heels who wants to be spotted like a peacock for the slaughter, Hunters will rush for that foolish prey, because its easy to spot. 
OK! that is  harsh! my apologies but no one can make you happy, your parents didn't, so why do you want this poor fellow to do the job. Stop running from one church to the other. Stop "sowing seeds" of money in church just to get married, or joining the ushering  unit in church just to get a guy. 

My beautiful matured lady, stop sleeping over at his place because he says he loves you and want to spend the rest of his life with you but he is too lazy or a ready to pay your dowry or wed you but he is very eager to get into the sack with you. Now you shove all you religious and cultural ethics and make yourself lower than a maid, cheaper than a prostitute in a.k.a "our wife" or " assurance lady" because of what his friends call you.  

You need to look at yourself in the mirror. 
Ask yourself this question, Who are you? I am proud to let you know that  "You are a queen!" 
Yes! you might be broke, single, working, on top of your career or not even where you wan to be right now. 
This is what you need to do:
Take care of  your body, listen to positive music (for me; Chirstian worship songs does make me feel good0. Dress like the queen that you are, it does not have to be expensive but it must be comfortable.  Delete numbers from your phone or block friends that make you feel like a failure and keep calling those who inspire you, pray with you, encourage you.

Don't feel bad to let go of your fears and frustration but don't do that with food. keep your mind, Spirit man and body in tone and in shape. Read (I personally enjoy reading my bible) books that inspire,  set little goals each month beacuse it gives you focus. Sister please, work on your character, be polite, nice, not a bitter hag in her forties and give love to your neighbor. A lot of people met by referrals, someone told someone about them.


 Most, importantly, LIVE with a purpose, be happy in a healthy and legal way
( not by using drugs, sex or crazy stuff, i don't know you decide). 
Have values  in life or create  values into  your lifestyle.

from a fellow single sister with love
xoxo