BREAKING, BROKEN & A HEART BREAK?

HOW TO DEAL WITH HEARTBREAKS?

#emotions

 

Hello everyone, this not a new topic in any way, but its really discussed in the angle i am going to take it.This is a question that sneaks into your mind when expectations are dashed. To be more explicit(too much grammar abi?), forgive me and allow me to rewind. Heartbreaks is not all about lovey dovey stuffs, crying into a pillow, it could be as a result of other things like visa denial, your favorite football team loses a easy match,  losing a business deal worth very good money e..t.c

How do you get over it?

I am not talking the movies concept of cuddling in bed and wearing your boxers, eating ice cream, cookies and watching sobbing movies. Nah! that's too expensive, a bucket of ice cream will cost you more than 5k (five thousand naira).  Not worth!, I reject diabetes and fat from your body. Try carrots. Lol!
I'm going to give some suggestions and please note that i am not insisting you do what i say but just sending my own views/ recommendations. Trust, i live in Nigeria and heartbreaks is a normal. Ask any citizen living here. If they don't curse the President, they would   the power company. So here goes:

• Forgive: I don't who, what and why the break happened. Forgives is hard to do but necessary for you. let it go!                                         
• Cry: force yourself to cry, let those salty tears out if you must. guys don't cry in public so i recommend bathroom tears. it might release the pressure in your cheat region.
•  Sing or Listen to good music: I don't mean those sad he left me, my world is ruined, i want to kill myself tracks. No! don't go there. Try something fun, praise like, positive. I am a big fan of worship songs.
•  Talk to someone: this can be therapeutic but you have to sure that person you are confiding in is not a 'Amebo' a.k.a gossip, or your matter will be on Channel news before you can snap your fingers.
•   Pray: There is no one who has had the massive experience and knowledge on how disappointing man /woman can be. I personally recommend talking to God Almighty on how you feel and your fears.

 "Time heals all wounds"

Give yourself some time, get busy. go out and live your life with a view that God's got your back. Everything may happen for a reason, just thank God for your season.

All na experience/ testimony. Move on. Your heart is not glass, it will hurt but it will heal in time. have a beautiful month.

FRESH FACE AND CONFIDENT.

BEAUTY TALK!

Hi Ladies, its been a while i have been wanting to write up this piece. I went one Sunday to church and noticed almost all the ladies had the same look, same eye brows( all boxy and big) *shivers.
No originality, no fresh face confident lady in sight. I guessed, i missed a couple of Sundays being out of town and all.
The rate at which makeup is been used, its scary! You see someone early hours in the morning, and you don't recognize her from the night before, this also happens to us females not just guys.

Don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying you should be ugly but i feel the need for confidence on your inner beauty. If you ever wondered why a young girl of 18 years look like if she is in her late twenties. #sad.
Its called makeup not madeover to transform you to a fake looking diva e.g look at Nicky. All na show o!

Been "fresh face"; is just giving your facial skin chance to breathe and recover without any makeup possible just light white powder.

the stages of makeup differs from how well versed in the technique a lady knows for that "wow" look. Some its just 3-4 steps while others its  almost 10 steps. Trust me, its like a artist transformation.

I might be harsh but have you notice these ladies that do a lot of chemicals or powder on their skin have break out i.e acne and their face *ages dramatically. OK! I'll say it: they look extremely ugly!
Hey! i do make up o but i have a routine treatment from facial washes, to remove dead  skin, peel off using oranges. I have very oily skin but using mild soaps work well and once in a while i go for facials treatments. Honey with coconut oil helps too. I would never use cream on my face because of my skin type is not a fan to it. No sponges, just facials massages and wash using your hands only.

SO ladies been fresh face is not a Church thing, our ancestors did  it o, once in a while try to be you, do you and step out with that inner confidence and not the outer assistance. *wink!

Have fun !!!!!!!xoxo

Oops! You think, you are enjoying yourself. Get real!

HEALTHY YOU

#Danielsdiet 

I guess, you would be wondering what that headline is about. Well! i was out visiting a good friend and we were chatting about her official leave coming up and plans for traveling, when she got a ping on blackberry from a colleague at work who was already on vacation and i think she wrote:
"I am enjoying myself and eating like a big girl everyday"
She then sent a  a picture of her food.Check this out:

This had a lot of cholesterol, which is not easily burnt of with exercise.

 she even adds fried sausages to this basic meal. But lets be truthful the average Nigerian is so brainwashed that we are killing ourselves with a lot of quick junk. Don't get me wrong, i am not claiming to be a saint because I am as guilty as everyone else. I had to renew my mind on the definition of enjoyment and a healthy me. 
Below picture is the every day quick fix meal for most spinsters or bachelors in Lagos with a chilled bottle of Coke.

I dare you to deny this food! in pidgin "Bros, even you don chop am!"

If you have any argument read the end of this article first, Abeg!  then send  your comments. I believe that to eat "amala and ewedor" everyday is a lot healthier. This meal  in the above picture should be once in a week thing.
 

Healthy breakfast. Very affordable and not too time consuming.

My dream romantic breakfast.

if you can recall the first "healthy you" article i wrote on  19 of April, 2015. I had a rude awaking that i was an addicted junkie.In this, i mean, i couldn't easily make the right food /nutritional decision/choices everyday. This is not just me but almost every other Lagosian or Nigerian for that matter.
Challenge is for a week:
* You need to drink on a daily basis: 2 litres of water minimum
* Take fruits twice a day
* Eat freshly made salad at least twice a week
* No Coke, 7Up or Beer (no carbonated drinks nor wine, spirits)
*No cakes , fried plantain (Dodo)nor akara
* Take fermented Drinks at least once; Yorgurt, Ogi, Kunu
*Your budget is N3500( that is in naira) for a week only.
Then take a picture of yourself before and after a week of this diet. Lets us have your comments or observations. We need to know or i need to know, if it was really a challenge or easy breezy!

#mythbuster

Local Nigerian myths

There are old stories from different parts of the world on the reason for problems , luck , successor health.

I would like to introduce you to the common sayings from my homeland d Nigeria.  The five popular myths are

Itching palms  and twitching eye brows: Money is coming.

 This is a popular story and  you would like to know if this is true. Sorry No! The hand itches in reality due to excess dry skin. Your eyebrows twitch as a result of muscles around you face are stressed. I had a crazy two weeks of my left eye brow twitching so much I had a headache. I shared this with a friend and he seemed so happy that he proclaimed a huge monetary blessing was to befall me. Yeah right!  A month later, no such magical event happened. I realized I was too stressed out from work. 

A piece of thread will cure Hiccup in babies

Now before you say anything, I had to do this practically. My goodness it works. My little niece had the case of hiccups and we were too far for water. I took a piece of thread from my dress and placed it on her head. After a few minutes, the hiccups stopped.

There is not scientific explanation or evidence to support this theory on how true the old midwives tale really is. But if the baby has a very bad case of hiccups, please just give him water (warm is advisable).

Don’t walk over someone legs

This is definitely not true. If you are sitting on the bare floor and stretch out both your legs, someone crosses over your limbs while you lay down. You will have a child that looks exactly like the person who just walked over you, this genetically not possible. It’s just an old Nigerian story to stop young people from bad manners. It is designed to improve our etiquette.

Eating while standing, while make you slimmer or the food will go to your legs.

Please!, Abeg!, since while did your stomach connect to your limbs. False; 100 %. Kindly do some exercise to reduce the weight.

DOES HE LIKE YOU?

#feelingconfused

This  might sound odd but it happens to a lot of us (by this i mean single and no seen, not sure).Does he like you? was the title i read up at epphany.com by google on twitter. And i wanted to share my views. Please note, my views also applies to women as well. ( so don't think of me as a feminist).
 The 5 steps to note by this Epphany are as follows:

5:HE IS TOUCHY
 They say that  being touchy;shows he is emotional and vulnerable.
The matters of the heart can be tricky but i don't  want it to be confused with  actions like; when he seems to be checking your phones call log, or calls you up at random every day, asking  where you are? whom you are with? (A.k.a Psycho tendency  or mad man ability) Always loses his temper when you don't agree with him. Now! that could best describe being touchy.

 4:HE IS LOOKING AT YOUR LIPS
This is an unspoken way that shows he is sexually attracted to you. If you ever watch Telenova or Telemundo  or the Indian series. They tend to show this displayed characteristics. In Nigeria, it could mean he is shy but also could mean he is a sexual pervert, original player.My meaning they all do the same moves, so that number 4 it's not clear. He might even have eye problems, but if a guy looks straight at your breast,as the 80's song goes " it's all about sex baby!...."

 3:HE CAN'T STOP SMILING AT YOU.
Hmm! watch Discovery channel or the Wild life channel on D.S.T.V, the predator always smiles at the prey. See the picture to this. Do you think the king fisher was angry when he caught that good fish? No! he was smiling home. If he smiles a lot like my friend Manji who was born that way, because the muscles on his face move just one other direction except when he eats.Lol! okay! seriously, if  there are no jokes said, comedy watched. The man is CRAZY! RUN!




 2: HE IS GENUINELY NICE TO YOU
No more Mr. nice Guy! Is that statement true? Honestly, i don't know.  Define what is nice? opening the door, or introducing you to his friends? Asking your opinion on the menu? Or ignoring you when football is on the tv? I don't know but you should.for instance your girlfriend leaves you alone, whenever her friends shows up? or he never says thank you, at all. In Lagos, its scarce to meet really nice people, even in church. People seems to be nice to you for something to gain. Don't believe me? Ask the everyday working class Nigerian.



1: YOU JUST HAVE THAT GUT FEELING!
My take on this is simple. Your "GUT" is also called your stomach. you know that saying " you have butterflies in your tummy whenever he is around, because you love him" STORY!
It could be hunger that is confusing you, your stomach was not designed for detecting your emotions. Your "Belly" can feel funny whenever you are nervous, not when you are in love.
To yourself but true! that's the best advise i can give you.



So, be careful of all the junk, romantic, psychological things written up on the internet. Think them through, please. Do act on every information ladies and gents. Have a great day!

BOOK REVIEW

BOOKS FOR THIS MONTH?

PHILIP BEGHO
 #ReCoNNect #philpbeghobooks

Philip Begho the award wining Author.

As promised, lets talk about the must have books this Month. Its the time to inspire your minds and that of your families. The ReCoNNect movement is aimed to get everyone into reading. I noticed that parents and kids don't connect in any level, in this  i mean, they can not have a good conversation and the rate at which our kids vocabulary is deteriorating with short abbreviations like LOL, ASAP, XOXO, LMAO. It is a miracle they can spell well. i don't want to go into creative imagination and good values.    Most parents rather live their children's schools to teach them home values because they are super busy. Remember when Tale's by moonlight was a program back in the days we would run home on Sunday , just to hear what tortoise did or what girl or naughty boy got from disobedience. Christian values are not  been explained to our children How many parents can read mybook of bible stories and explain these to their kids.

PHILIP BEGHO, author of over one hundred books, is an award-winning Nigerian writer (playwright, screenwriter, children's writer, novelist, short story writer and poet). A lot of Philip's Begho's books have these old school morals and religious values  from Toju and Tosan adventures  based on popular bible stores to society ideas of moral and how it can affect kids. Ant boy series who loves to help people and must obey his parents. I can go on.  I love Jelly baby is  by far the most exciting novel with mystery that keeps you  on your sit.

 "I began writing at the age of eleven at King's College Lagos when materials were solicited for the school magazine and my short stories were accepted and published. Being able to break out from working as a lawyer to working as a writer has been a dream come true. The price has been steep, but the fulfillment of any dream sweetens the pain of its price."

The list of awards he has received include:
 Association of Nigerian Authors (ANA) Drama Prize 1994
    Lire en Fête Short Story 1st Prize 2001[13]
    ANA/NDDC JP Clark-Bekederemo Prize for Drama 2002
    ANA/Matatu Prize for Children’s Literature 2003
    Isidore Okpewho Prose Prize 2003[2]
    ANA/Atiku Abubakar Prize for Children’s Literature 2005 
He also writes dramas for children,  adults and is a trained lawyer. Philip enjoys writing .. My favorites  of Philip's books include TitiRella, Jelly baby, Smallie series, Aunty Felicia series, the short story Crab story.  All his books are available online: Jumia  and Amazon only. The best part, it is extremely affordable. His books price range from N200- N1200.
 

Drama

    Daniel (aka Power of Lions; Lagos: Monarch Books, 2001)
    Esther (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2002)
    Job's Wife (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2002)
    Titi Rella (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2004)[2]
    Jephthah’s Daughter (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2006)
    Leopard Woman (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Traffic Jam Kids (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Solomon (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Joseph (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Nebuchadnezzar (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Jael (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Born King (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Predator (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 2: When Should I Marry? (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 3: The Rubbishians (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 4: The Marriage Seminar (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 5: The Beggar (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 6: The Sandwich (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 7: Five Storybooks (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 8: Two-Way Street (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 9: World Peace Day (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 10: School Daze (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 11: The NEPA Statue (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Smallie 12: True Democracy (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)

Prose

    Songbird (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2002)[2]
    Strange World (A collection of short stories; Lagos: Monarch Books, 2004)
    Jelly Baby (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2004)
    Aunty Felicia (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2003)
    Aunty Felicia Returns (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2005)
    Aunty Felicia Goes to Yankari (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Aunty Felicia Goes to School (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Aunty Felicia in the Evil Forest (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Aunty Felicia Goes to Church (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    King Omatosan (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Chuma the Terror (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)
    Crab Story (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2010)

Poetry

    Tulip of the Nile (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2003)[2]

Non-fiction

    Company Formation: Precedents on Objects of Incorporation (1986; Lagos: Monarch Books, 1993, 2003, 2009)
    Tongues Aflame (Lagos: Monarch Books, 2003)[2]
PLEASE NOTE NOT ALL THE BOOKS ARE ON THIS LIST: otheres available on line include

• Chuma the terror
• The brave Queen
• The Proud King
• The mermaid
• Maroko outcast
• wolf girl
• Friendly fire
• GRand treachery
• Song Bird
• Penny for an orphan
• Trafficked!
• The yellow sports mercedes
• The talking tree
• A greater mermaid
• A strange sight 
• A strange man
• Lady strange
• club of vengeance 
• Out of a snake e.t.c

NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE

 HELP A BROTHER OUT

 #helpabrotherout  

 “To be romantic , you have to first be adventurous”

A lot of young men believe that you need to be super rich to take a lady out. Okay, I know it’s said that ladies are scarce but babes are plenty in the market. Unfortunately that statement is very true.

Let me clarified the difference what I mean by the previous statement; “a lady” has manners, she does not settle to be treated like a maid. She has values, she may or may not be working, and her age is not the issue because she could be sixteen. She would never spend the night with you on the first or even 8^th date; in fact not at all. She is cultured, well read and can speak eloquently (not necessarily in English). She must be respected and understood. She is submissive but not stupid. 

 “A Babe” on the other hand has no vision, no focus; she wears whatever any celebrities that seem to be in vogue are wearing. She cannot understand the word self respect because she either underestimate herself or believes that this is old school/old fashions ideals. She is ready to spend every dime she earns (or steals) on clothes, human hair, makeup or shoes. Please note that half her conversation is based on her clothes, labels, and other people. She could be a graduate, working with a good company and has not problem sleeping with you or her boss. *wink*

Now, we have that out of the way. Yes! We were discussing about money and a good first date impression. From my research; most guys always takes their date to any fast food eatery. I have one word to say to that: ”BORING”.  What happened  to nice quiet picnics?

Well! I’m here to help a brother out. Guess what?  try the LEKKI CONSERVATION PARK, in Lekki, Lagos, Nigeria. It is going to be the walk of your life. For real! You guys will walk.

 I had a trip with two of “my besties” and I knew our friendship will last after this lifetime coz we walked through that crazy swampy forest, looking a monkeys and most times just trees. Hearing the crickets scream! ( Yes o!, it didn’t sound like chirping to me)

 Climbing the rope bridge  but due to reasons unexplained e.g.  We didn’t want to die with the “oyinbos” a.k.a. White people in front of us at the bridge, so we had to turn back. There were pleasant surprises at the end of the path.

We got to the park with barbecues spots, gigantic chess boards, snake and ladders, monopoly. 

I was excited to see the”Koi” fish; they were so big and colorful.  Yeah! the tortoises were there and peacocks but the fish won the show for such a journey. There were lovely huts with gorgeous chairs and tables. You can bring you own food and have a picnic even a party.

Enough space to have a quiet time with the lady in your life. How much did it cost to trek more than one kilometer and get the paradise experience?  Just N1000 per head.  

Budget:

1. Gate fee; N1000 per head
2.  food drinks: N2000 per head (make sandwiches or buy snacks, don't go for pure water. that's too cheap)
3. Transport( by bus): N3000 (it could be less)
4. Total amounts to :N7000-N10,000.

Hmm! Your lady? if she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Oh! You will know for sure, if she will stay the long hull with you, if/when she completes that journey without killing you in the forest *wink*.

 Have an amazing, simple and affordable lifestyle guys. Get inspired!