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#Amazingspots #foodie Lets gist hangout in Lekki Lagos

I love finding new spots to hang out with friends  and fortunately a friend find this cool spot in Lekki phase one, on Lexington mall along Admiralty way. Its a cozy restaurant called "MILANO restaurant". Normally, i don't like eateries or restaurants because they can be noisy and over crowded, aesthetics can be depressing or overwhelming. 

Wow! I got to this place and I love the decor, the natural lighting with the lovely simple chandeliers. And my on my! the service superior, i mean they treat you like a queen (which i love) and the food is fantastic.

Sweet pizza and  delicious club sandwich.

Above is the wonderful friendly Chef Kahlil , who was so humble and sweet.
so peeps, wherever you are in Lagos and you want to chill in a calm  and beautiful enivromnet, You want somewhere for a quite romantic date,' Milano restraurant' is just the perfect spoet and the best thing is, its sooooo affordable.

WALKAWELL: #lieswehear "Matured singles in African society" ...

WALKAWELL: #lieswehear "Matured singles in African society" ...: "Matured singles in African society" #maturedwomen This is old news that every part of the world have their own view and sayin...

#lieswehear "Matured singles in African society" #snubNstigma" #myths

"Matured singles in African society"

#maturedwomen

This is old news that every part of the world have their own view and sayings for ladies who are still single in the late twenties, thirties, forties and fifties. These are words of supposed wisdom on  how they look at  person who seems physically normal and by this i mean; having two legs, no deformity, working, good looking and very single. 
The words for men would be, "My guy! are you gay?" You don catch AIDS?" especially they don't see women leaving your room early in the morning or you dress on point and no chic by your side.  but they never say that to a man in public or at events. these are private gists.

For ladies its a different scenario, it start with the " I dey pity you statement" (that's our local English phrase, it means try and make her feel sorry for herself)
"Oh! you are getting fat", "whats up sis?" , "Don't worry God will do it for  you?" "all is well!" ,"You are not the only one", "No kill your self!" "But you well soo?" 
then you get into your forties: the tone becomes harsh or forcefully, please pardon the phrases , most are in pidgin english.
" Oh girl you don old ooo, na small boys you go soon follow?"
" you are too selective, thats the problem. " " just grab on the anyone way come your way" " My dear, your eggs don dey spoil ooo, sharply go see that man of God". " What is special about you, wetin you d feel like?"  

The  truth is life is in stages and being single is not a disease. nobody notices the high rate of divorces in Africa due to the rush to marry, in order to slay your friends. Just to say Sorry "I pepper them well" with all the glam that goes with wedding. 

 They get in a relationship by fears or by force and discover they don't know anything about that guy and feel frustrated because they had no clue that he is not meant to make them happy. I have colleagues in the field of counseling and we all agree that its common for a Nigerian Lady in her early thirties who had dreams, would want to kill those dreams and adventurous side of herself because she wants to become someone she is not in order to get married.  An classic example  would be a drag queen on heels who wants to be spotted like a peacock for the slaughter, Hunters will rush for that foolish prey, because its easy to spot. 
OK! that is  harsh! my apologies but no one can make you happy, your parents didn't, so why do you want this poor fellow to do the job. Stop running from one church to the other. Stop "sowing seeds" of money in church just to get married, or joining the ushering  unit in church just to get a guy. 

My beautiful matured lady, stop sleeping over at his place because he says he loves you and want to spend the rest of his life with you but he is too lazy or a ready to pay your dowry or wed you but he is very eager to get into the sack with you. Now you shove all you religious and cultural ethics and make yourself lower than a maid, cheaper than a prostitute in a.k.a "our wife" or " assurance lady" because of what his friends call you.  

You need to look at yourself in the mirror. 
Ask yourself this question, Who are you? I am proud to let you know that  "You are a queen!" 
Yes! you might be broke, single, working, on top of your career or not even where you wan to be right now. 
This is what you need to do:
Take care of  your body, listen to positive music (for me; Chirstian worship songs does make me feel good0. Dress like the queen that you are, it does not have to be expensive but it must be comfortable.  Delete numbers from your phone or block friends that make you feel like a failure and keep calling those who inspire you, pray with you, encourage you.

Don't feel bad to let go of your fears and frustration but don't do that with food. keep your mind, Spirit man and body in tone and in shape. Read (I personally enjoy reading my bible) books that inspire,  set little goals each month beacuse it gives you focus. Sister please, work on your character, be polite, nice, not a bitter hag in her forties and give love to your neighbor. A lot of people met by referrals, someone told someone about them.


 Most, importantly, LIVE with a purpose, be happy in a healthy and legal way
( not by using drugs, sex or crazy stuff, i don't know you decide). 
Have values  in life or create  values into  your lifestyle.

from a fellow single sister with love
xoxo

 

Wow, the amazing results of Aloe vera +coconut oil on my grey hair.....

#Health and Beauty tips.
Its been while i had written anything but i  am back to cheer up your day. Ladies love to look great , not just good but great. Everyone of us, women  want that really fine texture, bounce and luster to our hair. I know as a African,  the natural kinky hair or dreads are back, and looks so cool on a lot of ladies. I still have my hair treatment chemically to stretch it out  because its thick and my hair personally; in its natural state when combed gave me headaches.

 If you had read my earlier blog on what i discovered from the internet about Aloe vera and its effective in regrowing already balding scalp. As a lover of all things "try it out" from the internet, i did and using the extracted gel in raw form worked. My front hairline has grown and its thicker than before. So now I use Aloe vera  as my edge control when i have braids on, when i brush back my hair in a bun. Its so cool no side effects, sometimes you might feel an itch.

So you can understand my enthusiasm on having all these grey hair turning back to dark brown(my original hair colour). Why not just DYE your hair back? you might ask, well it so happens that my hairstylist and I discovered that i am very allergic to dyes. I mean i had used Henna, Local and foreign dyes with the same rashes and weird looking dandruff popping all over my scalp.
So i surf the internet and saw a couple of videos and  the link below on how easy it is to use Aloe vera mixed with coconut oil to condition your hair and  it also turns grey back to your original natural colour. 

 https://www.curejoy.com/content/can-reverse-graying-hair-natural-color/

Wow! i did it for like 5 days straight and waited for another week to see if there were any remarkable changes. The amazing results was NOTHING HAPPENED. Those grey hair were there loud  and proud, and are popping even on my front hairline now.the mixture didn't work, so i went back to check the  videos on U-tube and i realized one thing. they were all white people. Maybe it works for Chinese, Indians and Europeans. 
the lesson for the day, I learnt to love my hair with all the grey bits and its shines pretty well and give me that distinguish and sophisticated intelligent look. So now i just flaunt my hair with cool hairstyles  and feel cool with myself. Now and then, I do get so nasty remarks from the elders(Women in their sixties and above",  comments like " Don't you think you should be ashmed of looking like an old  woman" or " Young lady, does your hair not itch you?" 
My response is to smile because i am not afraid to age with grace.

The Moral of my story is that even if you try something new, don't let it change you. I am very okay with dying your hair, cutting your hair, using extensions or whatever choice you prefer.
My advise to ladies reading this story, Please have a healthy outlook of yourself. By this, I mean think beautiful, eat healthy, rest early, throw your worries to God and it will reflect on your body, hair and health.
 
 
 

Amazing!Ladies Aloe Vera works for balding scalp too. Yes!

My  Front hair baldness cured!

#organic naturals #beauty #myths

Hello Ladies, i am sure  this is not news to those of us who braid our hair or suffer hair loss during harsh dry season known as Harmattan. The fact that it got worst was through hair stylist that claim they know what they are doing. Every time i loose my braids or weavons, i see my hair strands falling like i shaved them ff. #sad
I have treated a lot of different solutions until i stumble on an article on Bright-side.com on how India use Aloe Vera for conditioning and that is the secret of their long silky hair.
Aloe Vera is a very popular plant in Nigeria with most homes having a pot of the plant at their door ways.Its used for burns, treatment for scalding by oil or hot water and some people swear that by drinking it, you can be cured from fevers. I don't recommend drinking it, because it is very bitter and smells awful.

Aloe Vera

How do you use Aloe Vera on your hair?

1. As a conditioner: When washing your hair with shampoo, just before your apply your conditioner, take a leaf or two from the plant, open it up and scoop the gel found within the leaves into a bowl. Mash the gel with a spoon till it becomes liquids. Then apply this liquid to your hair and scalp first by rubbing  and massaging using your hands. Then apply your conditioner (local or foreign). Steam your hair using a nylon bag or shower cap for 20 minutes, comb through preferably using a big free comb. then wash out the Aloe and conditioner before styling.
2. As a gel: if you like to gel down your front hair line, Aloe Vera can be applied along with a little amount of gel. 
3. As a hair moisturizer: We know that coconut oil is a good hair softener and the combination of coconut oil and olive oil is great for your hair. but try adding the gel from Aloe Vera ( just a little amount ) on your hair before applying the oils we just mentioned earlier. If you have very dry and brittle hair, you will be amazed on how effective this simple treatment works.

 

Front hair loss is the same on the the other side of my hairline. in this picture i had not started using Aloe Vera

My front hair line regrowth is thicker and very obvious. This is after just 3 applications in 2 months. What do you think? Aloe Vera #rocks.

Natural organic applications are cheap and very effective on natural and chemical treated hair . 

 Please give this a try, let me know how your hair feels and it works well for dandruff too. I am proud to say my hair is fuller, silkier and can hold curls well. Guys,you can try it for early baldness and give me feed back. Have a great day! #lookbeautiful #naturals

BREAKING, BROKEN & A HEART BREAK?

HOW TO DEAL WITH HEARTBREAKS?

#emotions

 

Hello everyone, this not a new topic in any way, but its really discussed in the angle i am going to take it.This is a question that sneaks into your mind when expectations are dashed. To be more explicit(too much grammar abi?), forgive me and allow me to rewind. Heartbreaks is not all about lovey dovey stuffs, crying into a pillow, it could be as a result of other things like visa denial, your favorite football team loses a easy match,  losing a business deal worth very good money e..t.c

How do you get over it?

I am not talking the movies concept of cuddling in bed and wearing your boxers, eating ice cream, cookies and watching sobbing movies. Nah! that's too expensive, a bucket of ice cream will cost you more than 5k (five thousand naira).  Not worth!, I reject diabetes and fat from your body. Try carrots. Lol!
I'm going to give some suggestions and please note that i am not insisting you do what i say but just sending my own views/ recommendations. Trust, i live in Nigeria and heartbreaks is a normal. Ask any citizen living here. If they don't curse the President, they would   the power company. So here goes:

• Forgive: I don't who, what and why the break happened. Forgives is hard to do but necessary for you. let it go!                                         
• Cry: force yourself to cry, let those salty tears out if you must. guys don't cry in public so i recommend bathroom tears. it might release the pressure in your cheat region.
•  Sing or Listen to good music: I don't mean those sad he left me, my world is ruined, i want to kill myself tracks. No! don't go there. Try something fun, praise like, positive. I am a big fan of worship songs.
•  Talk to someone: this can be therapeutic but you have to sure that person you are confiding in is not a 'Amebo' a.k.a gossip, or your matter will be on Channel news before you can snap your fingers.
•   Pray: There is no one who has had the massive experience and knowledge on how disappointing man /woman can be. I personally recommend talking to God Almighty on how you feel and your fears.

 "Time heals all wounds"

Give yourself some time, get busy. go out and live your life with a view that God's got your back. Everything may happen for a reason, just thank God for your season.

All na experience/ testimony. Move on. Your heart is not glass, it will hurt but it will heal in time. have a beautiful month.